Teen Talk Fridays: Gossiping

Gossiping: idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others

How many of you have heard of gossiping? Gossiping is a social weapon that many people would use to put-down a person. When a person gossips, it causes a conflict because of something that was false. It is not right to start rumors either. This is the main cause of drama both in and out of school and it can wreck havoc on everyone’s lives.

 

Here are some real examples from the bible regarding how powerful gossiping can be:

 

Gossip hurts others

In James 3:1-12, it says the tongue is “a world of evil”, that “corrupts the whole person”. How true these words are! Have you ever been the subject of gossip that has ruined your life? Anyone who has seen the movie Gossip must realize the truth in these words.

 

Your Tongue is Powerful

In James 3:5, James writes that the tongue is a small part of the body but “it makes great boasts”. We do not realise that this small part of our body can make a heap of difference, especially when it involves talking about someone behind their back.

 

Ways to talk to people who gossip:

  1. See for yourself if the person is a gossip – if you are just taking someone else’s word that they are, then you’ll never know the truth and will have been wrongly accusing them of gossiping. 

 

2. Be aware of what you say when you are speaking to them. 

 

3. Change the subject if you are uncomfortable with what you are discussing.

 

4. Make sure the friend knows that what you are telling them is private and for no one else to know, if you are intent on sharing personal information with them.

 

5. Confront and express your feelings to your friend if you have proof they have been gossiping about you.

 

6. Consider terminating the friendship if the gossiping ensues. 

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College Mondays: Living On and Off Campus

Did You Know?: 50% of admitted students are required to live on campus for their first year in college?

For First-Year Students attending traditional, four-year schools, college represents the first real opportunity to live away from home. And as you spread your wings and slowly ease into adulthood, you’ll definitely need a place to stay. While most universities provide dormitories for their students, many schools also allow first-year students to live off-campus and it can be difficult determining which option is best for you.

 

Before we go any further, we do want to stress that this is a topic to consider more as an upperclassman than incoming freshman. In fact, a lot of schools mandate that freshmen reside on-campus for their first year. And even if your particular college has no set housing requirements, we strongly urge you to live in a dorm or campus house if possible.

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Above is an estimated cost of living on campus vs. off campus. As you can see, living on campus might cost a little more than living off campus. But do keep in mind with living off campus means you will have more bills to pay (i.e., Utilities).

 

Things to consider when choosing:

  • Financial Stability
  • Which one will cost less
  • Space Capacity
  • Commuting to and from classes
  • Other misc. expenses involved

 

Living On-Campus vs. Off-Campus (video)

 

College Mondays: Majors & Minors

Major – a subject or field of study chosen by a student to represent his or her principal interest and upon which a large share of his or her efforts are concentrated.

Minor – study or qualification in as a subsidiary subject at college or university.

“What’s your Major and/or Minor?”

This is the common question that not only college representatives will ask you, but your parents, teachers and counselor will ask you this as well. When you begin high school, you should start thinking about your career interest. Many schools will help you get exposed to some of the careers to get an insight on what each career does. If you are undecided on major, that’s completely fine. Most high-schoolers don’t declare a major right away! Make sure that your major is what YOU want to do!!

Tips for Choosing the Right Major (Student’s Perspective)

Collegeboard (College Majors)

Click on the link to learn more!

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List of possible Majors

  • Business Management                                      Music
    • Finance
    • Business Administration
  • Engineering                                                         Human Services
    • Electrical
    • Mechanical
  • Arts                                                                        Theology
  • Humanities
  • Foreign Languages
  • Education
    • Elementary/Middle
    • Secondary
  • Social Work
  • Health
    • Pediatrics
    • Dietetics

Conflict Resolution Management

Fight or Flight?

Conflict – a normal, but healthy part of almost any relationship.

Let’s face it teens, you will be in a lot of conflicts all of your lives. It can be very stressful but learning how to deal with it in a healthy way is our goal. Let’s start with 2 different scenarios.

 

Scenario 1:

You and your best friend have always played soccer together on town and recreational teams. You both try out for the school’s travel team. You make it and your friend doesn’t. At first your friend claims not to care, but you soon realize your friend is very angry. Your friend doesn’t want to spend as much time together as you used to, and, of course, you have daily practices and games your friend doesn’t attend. What do you do? Discuss with a peer!

 

Scenario 2:

Avery hears a group of kids talking about her behind her back. As she is walking down the hallway, she continues to hear them. Then, the girls try to challenge her to fight. What would you do?

 

 

Notice that in each of the two scenarios, you notice that the conflict could have been easily solved by calming down from an angry state.

 

Learning how to diffuse a conflict an be indeed tricky and stressful. It will take a lot of knowledge and diligence to diffuse it. Follow these easy steps if you are ever in a conflict.

  1. Speak in a calm way! Use a firm, but not belligerent tone of voice.
  2. Take deep breaths!
  3. Leave the room  if you feel that the conflict could escalate
  4. If the conflict turns serious, bring in a mediator. 
  5. Listen! Listening to both sides of the story will give a clear understanding of where you both went wrong at.
  6. Wrap-up any loose ends.
  7. Apologize and Resolve.

 

Techniques:

  • Never ever get hostile and aggressive, this can result in a physical confrontation.
  • Take some time to calm down when you are upset. This is where many people go wrong at.
  • Write an “angry letter”, but DO NOT SEND IT!
  • Mediators will help you resolve the conflict in an even calmer way

 

Cyber Bullying

“According to statistics, 1 in 3 people are a victim of cyberbullying.”

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Cyber-bullying is a type of bullying in which the perpetrator uses social media or any other means of technology to harass or intimidate a person. Cyber-bullying is the second leading cause of bullying in the U.S.

Cyber-bullying  Signs:

Follow this link to learn more about how to spot the signs of cyber-bullying

Cyber-bullying

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Suspects of Cyberbullying might be charged with:

  • Hate Crime
  • Impersonation
  • Harassment
  • Multiple infractions under the Computer Fraud and Abuse Act

Prevention:

It is extremely vital that you recognize the signs of cyberbullying very quickly. The results can become fatal if not recognized. You can help by letting the school, and the parents know about the situation. Blocking the bully can also be helpful. Be sure to screenshot and save any incriminating evidence to the school or administrator in charge. All of these will help make our online world more safe for your children!